Connection is a key aspect of being human and maintaining your energy levels. If we lose connection with ourselves then we can fall into a state of depression and/or anxiety. Once my clients establish connection with themselves, their energy levels increase and overall peace with life. In this article, I share 5 ways to Connect with Yourself.
1) Establish when you will have Alone Time
We need some time to sit with our thoughts and decrease the amount of stimulation we have from the outside world. In order to do this we have to do the hardest thing we can, be alone. As social creatures this is hard, but it is absolutely necessary to build a relationship and connection with yourself. This can be done with mindful activities or even just sitting down in nature. It is up to you on how you want to do this. As a reminder, our thoughts are just that, thoughts. They are neither good or bad, observe them.
2) Engage in Mindfulness Activities
This somewhat branches off the first step. The primary difference is being fully present in what you do a few times a day. When you are playing with your kids, just play with your kids and be fully immersed with them. If you are driving, only drive, no calls or music; I think you get the point.
There are specific activities you can do to strengthen your mindfulness. This can be focusing on your breath, Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gong, a mindful walk, Forest Bathing, Guided Visualizations, and similar activities. I have a meditation subscription service with a 3 day free trial, check it out here.
3) Start to Journal
Journaling is considered a mindfulness activity, but I included it separately because it helps that much. You can choose when you want to do this: morning, afternoon, or night; It really is based off your needs. I personally find it helpful to unpack the day with a nice journaling session before bed and finish off with what I’m grateful for.
Journaling is just writing what comes to mind. I know this can be daunting and confusing at first. If nothing comes up, here are some ideas:
- Write 3 things you are grateful for (Gratitude Journal)
- It can be something that has been bothering you, pretend the journal is someone you trust and can talk to about these issues.
- Journal with Prompts:
- What was exciting about today?
- Did any issues arise today?
- What are you grateful for?
The ideas aren’t an all inclusive list and there are plenty of ideas out there if you are still having a hard time starting your journaling practice. Journaling can be just one word that summarizes how you are feeling. I have done that on numerous occasions. It’s okay if you fall out of the habit, when you are ready to go back into it then go for it. My journal helps me destress and I often see I hold more in (thus, increasing my stress) when I do not journal.
4) Explore Your Likes and Dislikes
When we feel at a disconnect with ourselves, we often are doing alot of the things we don’t enjoy, and in turn forget about what we do enjoy. Life is about trying new things and discovering the joys it has to offer. To your best ability try looking at life with a Beginner’s Mind. This can be hard but basically letting go of past experiences and engage with your new perception. Maybe something you didn’t like 5 years ago is something you’ll enjoy now. That has happened to me on numerous occasions.
The most important thing is to let go of the outcome and to be in the present moment. If you don’t like something, label it as something you don’t like and try to do less of it (if possible). If you enjoy something, start to do more of it.
5) Discover your Why
Our “Why” can be temporary. It doesn’t have to be anything grand. It is mainly to help us get out of bed and to look forward to the day. It won’t happen all the time but most of the time. Our “Why” helps bring meaning to our life.
What is your Purpose?
What is your Mission?
What ignites your soul?
Think about your passions, past experiences, what you are good at, and what you enjoy. Feel free to meditate on this concept and even create a Vision Board. My Vision Board has helped me a lot in helping my direction. A vision board is basically your intention with surrounding things you want to accomplish in forms of pictures. Eventually, it will come true when you place it somewhere you will see everyday because it primes your brain to look for more opportunities that lead to your vision. If you are looking to turn your purpose into profit, click here to read more.